The decision to have children is something that I have considered and thought about more since I came to college. I used to think I wanted children because I grew up with so many siblings, and family life was all I knew. I had always gotten along pretty well with children, and still do. I think babies are adorable, and babies in costume are my weakness. I love watching family vlogs on YouTube.
Even through all of this, I still have doubts about having kids of my own. When I think about having kids, I get a lot of anxiety. It is such a responsibility. I would be in charge of an actual human life. There are times when I cannot even take care of myself. Also these people are completely dependent on you. I do not like that idea; that is so much pressure. As it can obviously be seen, I have a lot of anxiety and fears about having children. I feel like these anxieties are common ones that I have heard from friends. It has been interesting having conversations with my friends about the decision to have children. I have found that a majority of my friends, do not want kids. I have yet to figure out if this is coincidental or not.
I am also at a point where I do not know where my post-college career is going to take me. I have always wanted to be super successful in my career. I am not saying that children would hinder that, but I just do not want to jeopardize that.
Taking Family Communication has helped me understand how families function, however I am still undecided on if I want kids of my own. At this point in my life, as a 20-year college student, I have absolutely no idea if kids are in my future. The question to have kids is one I feel I cannot answer at this moment in time, because I am so unsure of pretty much everything else in my life. At the end of it all, I could see myself being happy with or without kids. Only the future knows what is in store.
(Top: Holly) (Left: Danielle)
(Right: Jackie & Michelle)