The decision to have children is something that I have
considered and thought about more since I came to college. I used to think I
wanted children because I grew up with so many siblings, and family life was
all I knew. I had always gotten along pretty well with children, and still do.
I think babies are adorable, and babies in costume are my weakness. I love
watching family vlogs on YouTube.
Even through all of this, I still have doubts
about having kids of my own. When I think about having kids, I get a lot of
anxiety. It is such a responsibility. I would be in charge of an actual human
life. There are times when I cannot even take care of myself. Also these people
are completely dependent on you. I do not like that idea; that is so much
pressure. As it can obviously be seen, I have a lot of anxiety and fears about
having children. I feel like these anxieties are common ones that I have heard
from friends. It has been interesting having conversations with my friends
about the decision to have children. I have found that a majority of my
friends, do not want kids. I have yet to figure out if this is coincidental or
not.
I am also at a point where I do not know where my post-college career is
going to take me. I have always wanted to be super successful in my career. I
am not saying that children would hinder that, but I just do not want to jeopardize
that.
Taking Family Communication has helped me understand how families function,
however I am still undecided on if I want kids of my own. At this point in my
life, as a 20-year college student, I have absolutely no idea if kids are in my
future. The question to have kids is one I feel I cannot answer at this moment
in time, because I am so unsure of pretty much everything else in my life. At
the end of it all, I could see myself being happy with or without kids. Only
the future knows what is in store.
(Top: Holly) (Left: Danielle)
(Right: Jackie & Michelle)
